I have read piece after piece about things video teams should do to change, well it’s my turn.
I want to preface by saying I usually work with incredible people and often leave weddings with some new friends. I like for everyone have the best time possible and produce the best work we can for the couple. I hope my photographer and other vendor friends will back me up with comments so people don’t think I’m bitter or angry after what I’m about to say.
Like I said I generally work with incredible people and have a great time making wonderful imagery for the couple. But every now and again I work with a team of entitled asshats that make my life miserable. These people are the photographers that hate to see a video production.
To the photographers that eye roll and huff when I ask for a moment to get a shot, that ask “how many of you are there” before an introduction (let that sink in just how condescending that is), that stand in front of my camera like I’m not even there or think that our presence is just an added nuisance to your work day let me be the first to say FUUUUUUUUCCCCKKKK YOOOUUUUUUUUUUUU, fuck you and the horse you rode in on, double fuck you. Let me tell you something that clearly no one has ever told you - You aren’t special, you are no more important than any other person at a wedding. You are not any more important than me, the florist, the caterer, the rental company etc. We were all hired by the couple to do our job to the best of our abilities, for them. It is our obligation to work for them, third time, FOR THEM, not for ourselves. So when you have complete disregard for my presence and find me to just be a roadblock into your mission to get your photos published, you aren't just doing me a disservice, you are disrespecting our client. Remember, I was hired too. I was hired based on my expertise, experience and style - sound familiar? Yea all those reasons they hired you…same. I am so exhausted by the photographers that think they are the number one vendor and all others, especially video teams are the second class citizens of the wedding world.
This weekend I had a photographer say to me “I wasn’t prepared to have video here.” Then proceeded to have absolute zero respect for my presence as a colleague and step in front of my camera like I didn’t matter at all. Only to at the end of the night say “sorry I can be a little annoying.” No you’re not just annoying, you’re selfish. And to all of you that act this way at weddings, you’re just being selfish and not thinking about the couple. Keep in mind the couple is looking for a quality wedding video just as much as they are looking for quality photos. So selfishly disrupting our process is actually just as much a slap in the face to the couple as it is to me. Now obviously I don’t expect anyone to bend over backward for my video. I can’t avoid a photographer in the center aisle every now and again, you have a job to do too and I understand you need that photo which is why I set up three cameras. But to park yourself ten feet from the couple the entire ceremony is not only ridiculous (you should do a better job) but horrifically disrespectful to my operation. I can go on and on but this situation just repeats itself throughout the evening. When I try to get a shot of the couple and they call their name to look a different way, when they don’t even look to see where I am during dances and just step in front of me. Or a perfect 180 from me which makes laugh because now I’m in your shot too dummy lol.
All I’m saying is come back to earth for a second here. You are a wedding photographer, you are one of millions, it’s not exactly an elusive occupation. If you weren’t here someone exactly as competent as you would be in your place. Have a little humility and respect the other vendors because we have a job to do too. We aren’t here to get published, we are here to make sure the couple that shelled out thousands of dollars is happy. Getting every single shot that your heart desires the second you desire it is not a win. A couple that is happy with every part of their wedding day is a win. We are all a team at a wedding, it’s not about one part doing the best job, it’s about everyone making the day the best it can be.
Thanks for reading.